F.O.C.U.S – “F” Facing Your Fears | MAG0023

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Hello, hello Hello beautiful people and welcome

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back to Magnetize podcast. It's your girl Grace Oben. And today

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I want to share with you on focus, the acronym focus, F or C

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U S. Focus is an is an acronym that I came up with during one

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of the very difficult, confusing and challenging phase of my

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life. That really, really helped me navigate my way through the

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storms, the speed bumps, the stop signs, the tire, some

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debilitating tides, that were just holding me back and

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blocking may be coming. And I'm really hoping that this is going

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to help you. So if you are in a phase, if you are going through

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some really challenges, if you are in that phase where you just

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feel so stuck, you're not even sure what to do, how to move

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forward, there just so much standing in your way, then this

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is for you. So the first letter, which is F is facing your fears,

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facing your fears. Fear is an emotion that can be both

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powerful and paralyzing. But it's important to remember that

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it doesn't have to control us fear doesn't have to control us.

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It's a very complex emotion that affects all of us at different

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times in our lives. And it can prevent us from reaching our

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full potential. Overcoming Fear is a courageous and empowering

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process. Just Just think about a time that you had a fear for

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something you had a particular fear. It could be that it could

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be fear, for fear of driving a car, right fear of driving a

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car. And you overcame that fear. And now you, you you cruise when

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you're driving you just cruising. So fear can can be a

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very encouraging and empowering process. It involves

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acknowledging it. So we don't have to be in denial. When we

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have fear for something, we don't have to deny it. Because

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we don't want people to know that we have fear for that

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thing. Or we have that fear. We are to acknowledge fear, when we

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all feel afraid. When we want to take a step and we that fear

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comes in or steps in. We want to acknowledge it. And then we want

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to understand its root causes. Why do I have this fear? Why

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every time I think of doing some this thing, I have this fear.

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Maybe it's fear of flying, being on a plane. You want to

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acknowledge that fear, but they also want to understand the root

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cause of that fear. Why am I afraid of flying? If that's the

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case. And then you want to gradually, gradually challange

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yourself to face and conquer the fear. It's a gradual process.

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Because probably that fear is the root cause of that fear is

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some kind of trauma, some experience some terrible

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experience. It could be a traumatic effect, right? It

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could be a terrible experience you had or a family members of a

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family member of yours or someone you know a friend. Right

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so you want to gradually challenge yourself to face and

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conquer that fear.

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And here are some of the tips on how to face and call Conquer

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your fears. One, you want to understand your fear. You want

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to start by identifying and understanding the root causes

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the root causes of your fear fear because knowing what

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triggers your fear allows you to address it more effectively.

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When you know what triggers that fear, then you will be able to

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address that fear effectively. The second tip on how to face

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and conquer your fear is challenge your thoughts

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challenge your thoughts. Often fear is a fool, by fear is for

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by irrational thinking and negative beliefs. So, try to

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challenge those thoughts and and replace them with a more

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positive and realistic outcome. Alright, realistic one. So

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challenge those thoughts and replace those thoughts with a

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more positive and realistic ones. I remember reading a book

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by Jack Canfield. And the book is tied to the success

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principles. I was reading this book and in that book, he shared

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a story. That one time he was flying to somewhere and then

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there was this lady, this lady sitting by besides him. And he

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noticed that she was so tense and was just holding on to the

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rest of the of her seat on the point. She was so tensed. And he

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decided to engage her in a conversation and ask her, Oh,

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are you okay? And she said, No, that she's so afraid of lying.

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And he asked her where she was going. And she told her, told he

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where he or she was going, she was going to Disneyland and she

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was meeting her grandkids there. And her has had a daughter and

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the husband and their kids. So it was a family trip and she was

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going to meet them there. And he helped her through an exercise.

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And he told her to close her eyes. And imagine herself

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already at Disneyland having fun with her grandkids and her

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daughter and the daughter's husband and her son in law, just

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the whole experience. And she was able to close her eyes and

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she was able to visualize and she was able to see herself

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already in Disneyland having fun with her great grandchildren and

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her daughter and her son in law. And that helped her relaxed as

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her she was so relaxed, she was able to you know, continue that

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whole flight with so much ease and because she had seen the end

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result. Remember, fear is often based on assumptions rather than

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concrete evidence. So replacing those thoughts with more

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positive ones, those negative thoughts, those fearful types

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with a more positive ones. Take the third tip is take small

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steps. facing your fears head on can be overwhelming. Instead

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break them down break your fears down into smaller manageable

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steps. Gradually expose yourself to the source of your fear and

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then slowly expanding your comfort level. For example, if

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you have fear of driving, you want to first start with driving

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away there no traffic maybe in a parking lot Write slowly. You

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want to do it slowly. I have a friend. She's so afraid of

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driving. And her biggest fear is what if she's climbing a hill,

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and then the traffic lights tends to read and she has to

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stop on that feel her fear is to take off. And because of this

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fear, she will leave our car in the garage and take the public

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trust, what can you imagine what fear can do? Fear will cripple

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the year. Can you imagine that sign has it cart, the door

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rather take the public transport to drop off, had kids in school,

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and even go to work while her car is parked in the garage. You

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know, so you want to gradually expose yourself to the source of

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your fear, and then slowly expanding your comfort zone.

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While she knows she no longer have that fear, because she was

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able to face our fear. And she dealt with that fear. So now

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she's fine, you too, can do the same. The fourth tip is seek

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support. It's important to surround yourself with a

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supportive network of friends, family, or even a terrorist who

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can provide encouragement and guidance as you face your fears.

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Seek for support. If you need to see an expert to help you with

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this fear, do so. So you can free yourself. So you no longer

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in bondage. Sharing your fears with others can sometimes

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elevate their intensity. Will you share your friend your fears

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with friends or family members, they can help encourage you.

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They can also share them their own fears and say, Hey, I used

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to have this fear. This is what I did. This is how I faced that

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fear. And this is how I overcame that fear. The fifth tip is

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embrace failure and learn from it. Don't be discouraged by

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setbacks or failures along the way. When you try to face your

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fear, and you get in the middle of it and you're not able to

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push through, don't be discouraged.

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Don't be discouraged. Remember, it's a gradual process. It's a

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gradual process. So don't be discouraged when you take the

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leap of faith when you mount courage to face that fear. And

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then you get right in the middle of like, Oh no, I can't do this.

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Don't be discouraged. Just the fact that you took that step to

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even attempt to face it means you got somewhere you made some

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progress, no matter how small it was. So don't be discouraged.

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Overcoming Fear is a learning process. And setbacks are a part

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of that journey. Use them as an opportunity to learn as an

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opportunity to grow. And also to adjust your approach. Maybe the

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approach you took was not the greatest. Maybe you just move

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from so afraid to do it to just jump into trying to do it.

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Right. So you might want to look at the approach you use. So you

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might want to make some adjustments to that approach.

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Right. The sixth and final tip on how to face and conquer your

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fears is practice self care. self care is so important.

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Taking care of your mental and your physical well being can

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help you build resilience and courage, you know, engage in

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inaction DVTs that brings you joy and activities that bring

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you joy activities that makes you makes you feel relaxed, your

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mind is relaxed, your body is relaxed. Do some exercise, and

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you don't have to have a gym membership. Exercise does not

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need to cost you extra money. We have YouTube, go on YouTube and

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just look for exercise videos. And then just do them at home.

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If you love hip hop look for hip hop exercises or Afro beats Afro

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walk out exercises, they're usually really short you have

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the ones for 10 minutes, 15 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes,

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even for an hour. So you don't necessarily need a gym

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membership. To do movements, I mean, if that is what you want,

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and you can afford it, go for it. Right? Go for it. But if if

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finances an issue is a challenge, then you don't need

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to worry about that. There are even YouTube videos that will

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help you guide you on how to build muscles. Right. So, to

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some exercises, what's your favorite hobby and spend some

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time with loved ones spend some time in nature, take walks with

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friends or by yourself. See, taking care of yourself empowers

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you to face your fears. With a stronger mindset. You need to

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you need to be in a place where you feel strong and healthy

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enough to even have the courage to face your fears. facing your

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fears is a personal journey. Don't let anyone put pressure on

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you. And sometimes friends and family members might be coming

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from a good place and so and try to push and just puts you so

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much pressure oh you can do it you can do it. Girl you can do

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it. What are you can do it come on come on. I know you can do

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it. Yeah, I know you got it and no, but then you are not ready.

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But then you're putting this pressure day to them they are

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motivating you they are empowering you that maybe you

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are not there yet. You are not there yet. So facing your fears

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is a personal journey. And everyone's path is different. So

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take your time. Be patient with yourself. Bless your friends and

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family members, your loved ones tell them if they're trying to

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push you so much pressure. Turn them that please be patient with

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me. Celebrate even the small victories along the way. Every

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step you take in facing and conquering your fears. Every

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step you take celebrated. celebrated. Remember everyone's

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path is different. Just because someone was able to conquer to

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face and conquer their own fears into these in three days in one

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week or in one month or in three months does not necessarily mean

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that you require that same time you may require much more time

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than they did. So be patient with yourself. Take your time

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each your personal journey. You know yourself better. You know

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how much you can accomplish at a particular time. So take your

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time be patient with yourself. So it's your girl Grace oven and

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I'm gonna take the order for the second acronym, which is all

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next week. And this is going to be a five week series. I

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probably didn't mentioned that at the beginning is going to be

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a five week series. I will take off next week. Which is a

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it's your girl, Grace Oben. And see you next week. Bye for now