How To Achieve Your Dreams| MAG0024

Grace Oben: 00:00:00

Hello amazing people. Welcome back to magnetize podcast. It's your girl Grace Oben. And today I have the most amazing, amazing, amazing James Malinchak. He's a coach, high end coach. He's an author. And I have so benefited from his knowledge, his wisdom, as his client as one of his coaching clients. And I have the honor to have him here on my podcast. And I like James to speak for himself. Hi, James. Good morning. Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate your time. I know you have a tight schedule. So thank you for being here.

James Malinchak: 00:00:44

Alright, Grace, you're welcome. Good to see you. Let's let's help some people and impact some people.

Grace Oben: 00:00:49

Absolutely. So we'll just go right quickly into the whole discussion today. So you know, John James, you have achieved so many successes, and you've impacted so many lives. And I'm one of those lives that you so impacted with your wisdom, your knowledge. And can you share with our listeners, how you got to this point? Yeah, well,

James Malinchak: 00:01:13

so I grew up in a very tiny small steel mill town, in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, here in the US. And we didn't have much grown up, dad worked as a mill worker, and mom was a lunch mother serving lunches to us kids at school. So we didn't have anything grown up. I remember saying, Man, when I was in high school, boy, if I could ever make $2,000 a month, I'd be set for life. You know, that was my dream. That was my goal. And so long story short, I was pretty good in the sport of basketball. And I accepted a university basketball scholarship, and played and out and I was finished, I had aspirations of playing professional basketball. But you know, once you rip your knee up, kind of kind of it. So fortunately, I had a plan B, and I think most people in life don't have a plan B in case plan A doesn't work out. Unfortunately, I have a plan A back when I rip my knee up, and I have Plan B's for everything I do today, I teach entrepreneurs, you got to have a plan B because everybody gets all focused on one thing. And I'm like, Well, what if it doesn't work? Or what if the government does this, or the economy does this? You know, so what's your plan B and amazes me how many folks never have a plan B. So if I had to plan B, my my knee I blew it out. And my plan B was to go learn business and get a business degree and long story short, I got out of college and I started my career as a stockbroker with a major Wall Street investment firm. My office was on Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills, I manage the entered accounts of entertainers, pro athletes, and because of my young, quick start, at a young age, I got asked to start speaking, and one led the two to the three, three lead the nine nine lead the 12. And here we are done 3000 talks now, I have done coaching, I've done 2001 on one coaching sessions, you were one of them, that we did one on one with. And I've written 27 books, I have 21 online courses and done about 15,000 different pieces of media including being seen on ABCs hit TV show primetime Secret Millionaire, which has now been viewed by a 50 million plus people around the world. So that's kind of my little story. Amazing.

Grace Oben: 00:03:33

So, James, if we have someone who is listening now, and they really have the desire to build the gym life to build something that they have all this self doubt all this what if he doesn't work? What if this and they feel? They don't? How do they even have an idea where to start? What is the simplest way that you can tell them? Like give them to to start?

James Malinchak: 00:04:00

Well, I think three things that make people successful. And I've taken I've read 5000 Some books, I've hired more consultants to consult for me than most people, more coaches. And so what that means for anybody watching or listening, is that I have this vast knowledge of pulling from some of the best things in the world. And so I've learned a lot of different things. But you can go crazy learning all these things, because then it's like, well, where do I start with these 492 ideas I got. So I've narrowed it down for myself to three things one, it's your mindset. Now I'm not talking about positive wishful thinking pie in the sky stuff. I'm not talking about sitting on a couch in a lotus position going I hope I get my dreams that's not how it happens here on planet Earth. You know that's that's fun and dandy when people want to sell you stuff like that. You don't have to do anything, no work, but that's not how it really works in life. And so So, what I talked about is mindset, you got to train yourself to think differently on a daily, weekly, monthly yearly basis. Right? So how do you train yourself to think differently? Well, I mean, it's, it's so easy, because you've got books out there, I'm still blown away grace it like, I'll ask people all the time, what's the last book you read? And they have no idea because they haven't read one of yours. I'm like, how you got all this amazing knowledge out there to shift your mindset. And you're choosing to waste your time on other nonsense stuff versus choosing to grow your mind and put good knowledge yet, you know, so I got books out there, you've got great zooms, and podcasts like this. You can be listening to, you've got great events, you can attend great people you can hire for coaching, etc. And yet people choose not to do it. And they choose to waste their life watching television or doing insignificant things. You know, so I have a plan on how every day I grow my mindset. Oliver Wendell Holmes said, once the mind is expanded, it can't go back to the original place. So most people, you know, like, let's take income, they want to raise their income, and they don't understand that they gotta raise their mindset first, because you'll never go there in your bank at first go there in your mind. So whatever it is, any dream, any goal, personally, professionally, financially, Family Health, whatever that is, it starts with your mindset, you got to think differently every single day. Okay, react what I call reality thinking on a daily, weekly, monthly yearly basis number, but that's not enough. So what I did was three things into a triangle. First is mindset. The second part of the triangle is skill set, you actually have to go out and get skills, you know, like, you can have the greatest mindset about, I'm going to be financially free, because I'm going to do real estate investing. Okay, wonderful. That's great starts with our mindset. But if you want to do real estate investing, you got to go and get skills, how do you do lease options? How do you do buy and flips? How do you do fix them uppers? How do you do promissory notes with lending money for hard money, loans? Those are skills? How do you write up a contract? Let's take speaking like a lot of people get all gung ho on speaking or coaching that you get a great mindset. I'm going to impact people's lives. And I'm going to change that. Oh, great. What are your skills? Do you know how to deliver a talk the right way? Do you know how to put it together? Do you know how to find all of the people who control budgets, who can book you and pay you to speak. So those are skills that you have to develop? A lot of people talk about mindset, but it's incomplete. Because it's not mindset. It's mindset and plus skill set. You got to get skills in anything you're doing, right? But that's not enough. It's three things in the triangle. It's mindset, skill set, and then number three, and no one can help you with number three. Number three is Get off your assets and get moving. But what are you waiting for? Once you shift your mindset, you get some skills, what do you what do you sit around, don't take the information and put it on the shelf and turn it into shelf help take action and turn it into self help. So that's what I always tell people to try to make it simple three things if the only three things you could do right now would be change your mindset but by putting good stuff in your mindset, it's called Giga gi geo garbage in. Most people say garbage out and I say no garbage in garbage stays garbage grows garbage manifest, garbage surrounds your spirit. And then garbage comes out and affects people's lives in a negative manner. On the flip side of the coin, it's called GIG Go Gi geo great in great states. Great grows great manifest great surrounds your spirit and then great comes out and impacts your life and other people's lives in a positive manner. You got to be very, very careful what you choose to put into your ear gate. Right but mindset. But secondly, you got to go get those skills, you got to learn how to do certain things. When I used to think it was just mindset I was broke, making $7 An hour working in a video store. Because I didn't realize Oh, I gotta learn skills to become a paid professional speaker. But then that was enough to say I learned these skills now I gotta get off my assets and get moving and put the mindset and the skills to work in the real world. So there you go. That's what I would tell anybody.

Grace Oben: 00:09:46

Wow, that's that's rich. I told you guys I have jacket Jim set to the end. He's gonna blow your mind. I'm so happy you said that James. And it's so true because I remember I had always wanted be a speaker, I wanted to be an author. But then I signed up for your speaking as a speaking program coaching program. And I learned so much nuggets. And you right after learning all those things, if I didn't really get up and do something, and use some of those tips that you give those strategies about how to get speaking, speaking contract, I mean, I will see the year thinking about it, and assemble the book, you you've told us, you write this book at this time, and I followed step by step. And I was the number one released new release on Amazon. Why? Because I was able to take the knowledge that you gave us, or me, let me speak for myself, you gave me during that coaching program. And now I'm an author, the only author in my family, I never thought I'll ever write a book. So it's so true. The mindset, the skill set, and after those two, you need to get up and do something and take some actions. And I know you are a big fan, when it comes to action, you are so big, it's one of those things that you keep hammering, you got to get some things done, it's not gonna happen by itself. So, example

James Malinchak: 00:11:14

of taking action. So this is the way my mindset is, I got a call yesterday, for next week. So literally, six days from now, to fly to Nice, France, and go on a private billionaire person's yacht to watch in Monaco, to watch the Formula One f1. World, world renowned race. Now, I don't know squat about car racing. It's gonna be cool to be on a yacht in Monaco. The reason I'm going, man, by the way, I switched an entire schedule of things I had to do to make this happen was to shake hands with that billionaire person. So I want you to think about this. I'm flying 20 Some hours. All of a sudden, I just made it all happened last week wasn't like, Oh, I hope I can't make I can come up with every excuse. If you focus on excuses why you can't do anything in life, you'll never find the solution for how you can. So my rule is I take the tea out of cans. And I just ask myself a question, what do I have to do to make it happen? So I made a list, here are the things I have to do to make it happen. I got to add the switch six different major things. In order to make it happen. I said, Well, it's not that I can't do it. And I'm not going to wimp out. I'm gonna make it happen. Because how often do you get invited by a millionaire to I'm sorry, a billionaire to go on his yacht in Monaco, for three days, and we'll watch the f1 races, there's only 20 people going to be there. What kind of the evidence are a bunch of celebrities? What kind of relationships do you think I'm going to build? So look, I have the mindset of that I'm in the relationship building mode. The skill set was Okay, I gotta switch all these things around and do whatever I have to do to get a flight over there. And then what am I doing? I'm getting off my assets. I'm not saying I can't do it. It's what do I have to do to make it happen? Let me give you one other quick little story. This is a true story about myself. Also. In November, I had a situation where I had to drive myself to the, the ER, the emergency room. My blood pressure went crazy, which had no idea. I've never smoked. I've never done a drug in my life. I walk or run 10,000 steps a week. I eat very clean and very healthy. I don't drink alcohol. I drink a gallon of water a day. And every heart test every kidney tests, every piece of blood work has always come back negative. Yet, all of a sudden his blood pressure went crazy. So go to the ER because I'm a little nervous because it was 220 over 132. Normal is 120 over 80. Yeah, right. They don't know what's wrong. So they admit me into the hospital and give me all these meds and all this about 5am in the morning, they bring it down to like 150 over 90. And then they tell me Well, we don't and they ran all the tests here. And they said everything is negative? We don't really. So we're going to send you home. I'm gonna How can you send me home? This is not looking at the monitor. That's not normal. Yeah. Or and so what do they do? They write me to two more prescriptions. So now I'm on six. And they sent me home, even though the blood pressure's high. So finally I said I had it with these doctors. This has been going on for two years. It hasn't. The first time I went to the ER was this situation. But I said I had it. I said none of them are taken action trying to figure it out. And I got mad at the doctors in the emergency room hospital. Remember, they work for me. They don't just push me off. And I was I was like what's wrong with you people? Your job is to figure out what's wrong. wrong with this, you don't just send you do this to all patients, you just send people home, your job is to figure this out. And so I got in this heated argument with them, because I'm not going to let I just got sad about what they were doing to other patients. Me, I get home, I start going online and I started researching who is the best person in the world to figure this out. And I found the guy that helped. Dana White, who's the president of the UFC, Steve Harvey, actor, comedian, Stephen A Smith, from sports center, ESPN, these are all top big name celebrities. And I found the guy and I literally said, I'm hiring this guy. He fixed all these people who had the same problem as me. And he is a human biologist. And so anyway, long story short, I was ready. I had $100,000 Check that I was going to give him to work with me because he works with only top echelon people now I said, Well, if I give him $100,000 He's going to work with me, I guarantee you now pause. Now most people's I can't believe you're given how do you spend more on houses, you spend more on cars, you spend, look at looking at a five year period on clothes on going out like you won't spend up to get yourself figured out unhealthy. That's just asinine to me. So first of all, my mindset shifted right, the three parts mindset skill set, get off your asset mindset shifted to where I'm gonna figure this out. If these these dodo brain doctors aren't trying to figure it out, then I'm gonna figure it out. That's my mindset. I'm not quitting until I figure this out. That's my goal. So I gotta go get the I gotta get the skill set. Now I don't know how to face somebody who knows what I'm talking about, you know what I'm talking about with this and knows the answers. So I go to this person happens to be in South Florida. And I didn't have to pay him $100,000 He had a fee. Anyway, I got in with him. And he ran all these tests that doctors never run, checked all my hormones, 92 different biomarkers, and doctors run basic blood test, basic basic blood work, and they tell you, nothing's wrong, but they don't know how to check your cells, your hormones all that. A couple weeks later, we get on, he goes through my report with me on Zoom. And he says you don't have a blood pressure problem, you got a methylation problem, by the way, nobody has a blood pressure problem of blood pressure is something that's a result of something else. So he's gonna have a blood pressure probably got a methylation problem. I said, What the heck is that? He said, If you take crude oil out of the ground and try and put it in a gas tank, as fuel it car won't run that deck, crude oil has to be refined, related into fuel, put that into a car it runs. So think of food and things you drink is the same way. Your body doesn't convert it into its natural sources and resources so your body can run optimally. So I'm going to put you on a regimen with natural supplements and vitamins that will allow this process to happen for you. He said, I also want you to start doing saunas three times a week, 30 minutes and then a cold plunge, where you get into 48 degree water for three minutes. It's called cold water immersion therapy. It's been out there forever. I used to do it as an athlete back when we'd have injuries. This is what I wanted to and I want you to get rid of all sugars. He said sugar is the worst thing in the world for any human being. Fat does not make a person fat. Sugar makes a person fat. Fat does not mess up your organ sugar does. So once you get off of that. Processed foods, and all whites, flour, noodles, bread. All of that said you give me 10 weeks I will change your life. Wow. So So now he gave me the skill set. It's up to me whether I want to do it or not. Absolutely. Okay. I don't have to. I don't have to do it. I could have chosen not to use the skill sets this man taught me and laid out for me based on him working for 20 years with people and fixing them. I chose to get off my assets and do what he told me to do and follow the plan. Right? I long story short. Eight days later, my blood pressure was normal. Wow. Eight days. I also lost 30 pounds that I didn't know I had because he said it gets rid of all it will get rid of all the inflammation that you don't see in your body. And I did it with literally hardly any exercise. Now, I'm not this is not telling anybody what to do or what not to do. I'm not making a health claim or suggestion. I'm just telling my story of I shifted my mindset I got off. I got skill sets learn from somebody who He knows this. And then number three is I got off my assets and put it in motion. Okay, so I just wanted to tell a couple personal stories because people say all the time, well, that's good. You're advising people to do this stuff. But what do you do? I'm like, No, I do the same, I follow the same stuff.

Grace Oben: 00:20:19

And that's so true. I know you to be the person that you coach, what you do, or what you have done and has worked. You never just coach based on what you think. Because when you are coaching, you give a clear example. And you can show that these are things that I have done, guys, and I got result. And these are things I'm still doing even at this level of my success. So thank you so much, James, I know you have to run. But hey, guys, remember mindset skill set and get off your butt and do something, take some action because action, as James would say, is the cement that seals the deal. That is what produces the result. James, thank you so much. Is there any last word to our listeners? Yeah, two things.

James Malinchak: 00:21:08

If anybody wants to connect with me, you can reach me on Instagram, or on Facebook. It's just my name. Jim's J A M. e. S. Malin, Jack Ma L. I N. chak, you can also find me at my website, www dot big money. speaker.com. And then the last thing I'd like to say, to leave some positive words with everyone is, you know, life is too darn short. To not do what you dream of doing. Life is too darn short not to do the goals. You know, a lot of people Grace think that dreams and goals are for kids. Like, I'll have somebody 4555 65 I'll say what's one of your dreams? Oh, you know, I had some good dreams. But yeah, dreams are for kids. I'm like, no, what about yours? What are you talking about? Dreams are for kids. That's nonsense. What is it you want to do this year? What do you want to do next year? What do you want do five years from now? What do you want to do? 10 years from now, like, so what I'd like to leave everybody with is you are special because you were born. If you think about how many sperm you out, swam to become alive by the grace of God. You came into this world, a winner. Because you won the you won the race. And most people don't look at their lives like that. But oh my gosh, I am a blessed human being because I even made it to this earth number one, okay. And then somewhere along the lines, we let society derail us with all nonsense and all the noise, you know, and then we start to Lao the our lives to be shaped into something that doesn't excite us and doesn't invigorate us. Now, what I want everybody to know is you made it here. You know, we made it here, our eyelids flipped open today, we are blessed to be breathing today, we are a winner. And the next thing is that because of that you got to understand you have greatness within you. You have specialness within you. And you can do whatever you want to do. And you can't listen to all that noise and garbage out there on in the media and online. And, you know, whatever it is you want to do God put you here on this earth. And you can do it. You just got to shift your mindset, get the skills and then get moving and get off your assets. Absolutely.

Grace Oben: 00:23:34

Mindset skills, get up and implement. James has produced so many successes. I'm one of them. And big names that I can start listing. But please check out James website and you will be glad you did. James, thank you again. It's an honor to have you here today. And I am so grateful for your time and your knowledge, your wisdom. Thank you so much. I'm grateful. Thank you.

James Malinchak: 00:23:59

Thank you, Grace. I appreciate you people asked.

Grace Oben: 00:24:02

Thank you. Oh, hello, hello people. That was James Malinchak the amazing James Malinchak. I'm so blessed to have him here today. So, if you are in an investor, if you are a lady who is in a major transition in your life, and you are beginning to ask that question, what next? What next? I have achieved all of this but I still feel the emptiness the Why am I on this earth, then you might want to check out my website. We have some amazing coaching program on purpose driven. And if you're a teenager and you're listening to this episode, and you are a dream builder, or you have dreams but you have no idea how to go about it. Then you are a great candidate for my team diem for my team. Dream building pro We'll grow so check it out and be a part of the community again it's your girl Grace Oben and this is Magnetize podcast have an amazing day see you next week bye